A Feminist’s Guide to Acting Like a Lady

Because empowerment should not be without integrity.

Tip #45: When introducing people, offer a quick sentence about each person to establish a relationship.

Tip #46: Don’t expect people to remember every thing you’ve told them. Even good friends can’t always keep everything straight.

Tip #47: Read Elements of Style. Even if you’re not a writer.

Tip #48: Always keep a supply of gift wrap and blank cards on hand.

Tip #49: Have a fabulous red* coat.
* Note: Fabulous red also includes awesome purple coats. It may even be extended to a stylish navy peacoat, but it has to be pretty dang swank to count. I also have mad respect if you can rock a knee-length white without getting it dirty.

I always think of Martine McCutcheon’s red coat from Love Actually.

Tip #50: Have a firm handshake. None of that ‘limp fish’ business.

The End.

Bonus Tip: Do not be afraid to shed tears. Cry, shudder, fall apart and shatter. Then pick yourself up and put the broken pieces back together. Even if every movement burns a slow hot flame, stand up again and find grace. Grace is not in the passing of words easily spoken, nor is it in voices silenced; it is in the act of resurrection and redemption after total annihilation.

A Feminist’s Guide to Acting Like a Lady

Tip #40: Only those who’ve served the country should wear the uniforms of service. No fatigues. (Okay, so some of these apply to men and women.)

Tip #41: Wear audacious hats.

Tip #42: On occasion, wear red lipstick.

“Beauty, to me, is about being comfortable in your own skin. That, or a kick-ass red lipstick.”

– Gwyneth Paltrow


Tip #43: The silent treatment has an expiration date. It should never last longer than 48 hours. After that, it’s just cowardice.

Tip #44: Be more afraid of inexperience than failure.

A Feminist’s Guide to Acting Like a Lady

Because empowerment should not be without integrity.

Tip #34: Don’t hide from a camera. Learn when to ignore it.

Tip #35: Just because you can do it all doesn’t mean you should. Learn to share responsibility. Learn how to give and learn how to receive.

Tip #36: Learn how to repurpose and reuse.

Tip #37: Don’t be too afraid to make the first move.

Tip #38: Give your mom some credit. One day you’ll realize she understands far more than you thought she did.

Tip #39: Indulge your dad.

A Feminist’s Guide to Acting Like A Lady

Tip #28: On flights, always bring a trial size package of Visine, mouthwash and makeup essentials. A quick freshening at the end of a flight helps you feel human again.

(Domestic flights these days are getting ridiculous too. So also pack some food from home to bring onboard. It will save you from a choice between starvation and bankruptcy. I also bring a small travel pillow and blanket because I get cold easily and they don’t give that stuff out anymore.)

Tip #29: Travel light. Only pack what you can carry by yourself.

Tip #30: If you have special diet restrictions, plan accordingly.

Tip #31: At least once in your life, travel alone to a foreign country.
Tip #32: Learn a foreign language.

A Feminist’s Guide to Acting Like a Lady

Because empowerment should not be without integrity.

Tip #23: Take every opportunity to practice public speaking.

Tip #24: Work hard and play hard too.

“There are moments to indulge and enjoy, but I always know when to go home and wash my knickers.” – Kate Winslet

Tip #25: Very few people look good in skinny jeans.
file under: #sorrybutit’strue

A Feminist’s Guide to Acting Like a Lady

Because empowerment should not be without integrity.

Tip #17: Femininity is not anti-feminist.

“It’s all right for a woman to be, above all, human. I am a woman first of all.”  ~ Anais Nin


Tip #18: Allow people the space to change. Often you’ll find they become fuller versions of themselves, better and more beautiful than you imagined. Authentic selves are always more interesting than contrived ones.

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